Joss Whedon's ex-wife Kai Cole has penned a scathing blog on her former partner, lambasting his standing in Hollywood for being a feminist icon. Maintaining a reputation for being a writer, producer and director that crafts well-rounded feminine characters, Cole outlined the downfall of their relationship that culminated in a 2012 divorce.
Cole went into great depth on The Wrap to classify her ex-husband a cheating liar, using the television series Buffy the Vampire Slayer to allegedly mask his extra-marital activities. Stepping into the breach for Justice League and with Batgirl on the horizon, these will well and truly be unwanted headlines for the director as he links with DC for two big projects in 2017.
Kai: The Truth Had To Come Out
With the media digging for some human interest stories on her end, Cole wanted an unfiltered platform to put forward her side of the story. What would transpire was an impassioned recount of treachery and betrayal.
"I’ve been asked some questions by the press recently about my divorce from Joss Whedon, to whom I was married for 16 years," she began. "There is misinformation out there and I feel the best way to clear up the situation is to tell my truth. Let me begin by saying I am a very private person and the act of writing this is antithetical to who I am and everything I stand for. Yet, at the same time, I feel compelled to go on the record and clear up some misperceptions. I don’t think it is fair to me or other women to remain silent any longer."
Cole saw Whedon as one of the good guys, sticking true to his principles. But from what she believes she discovered, that was not accurate.
"There were times in our relationship that I was uncomfortable with the attention Joss paid other women. He always had a lot of female friends, but he told me it was because his mother raised him as a feminist, so he just liked women better. He said he admired and respected females, he didn’t lust after them. I believed him and trusted him. On the set of Buffy, Joss decided to have his first secret affair."
Cole Does Not Want Whedon To Be Celebrated
Having met in 1991, their relationship fell apart the longer Buffy the Vampire Slayer aired. It would have a detrimental effect on Cole. Once he confessed to cheating on her, it was over.
"My entire reality changed overnight, and I went from being a strong, confident woman, to a confused, frightened mess. I was eventually diagnosed with Complex PTSD and for the last five years, I have worked hard to make sense of everything that happened and find my balance again."
She had then come across stories from The Avengers director that would intimate the pair were still on healthy terms. That was corrected.
"Until recently, Joss was still letting the illusion of our marriage stay intact," she said. "Now that it is finally public, I want to let women know that he is not who he pretends to be. I want the people who worship him to know he is human, and the organizations giving him awards for his feminist work, to think twice in the future about honoring a man who does not practice what he preaches."
Having the right of reply, Whedon argued that the blog “includes inaccuracies and misrepresentations.” He stopped short of expanding on this “out of concern for his children and out of respect for his ex-wife.”
Source: The Wrap